HR Professionals

Increase Confidence

A Simple Exercise to Increase Confidence

I’m working with a client who could be a composite of so many current and past clients. After several months of working together, she finally sees how smart, beautiful and capable she is. She sees herself the way the world has always seen her. And she’s feeling quite giddy about it In that space between how we […]

Anger

Anger is in the Air

There’s a lot in the air. Hope, relief, inspiration returning, the joy of being with friends. I also haven’t perceived such collective anger since the one-year anniversary of 9/11 in New York.  I remember noticing that people were snapping at each other and shoving their way to the front getting on the subway.   Why […]

Shoulds

Is High Performance Costing You Too Much?

As we emerge from the Covid lockdown, we should be feeling happy, right?  We get to see friends, go to the beach, kids go to summer camp…it’s all good! Yet somehow there’s more cranky than happy.  “I should reach out beyond the five people I’ve been regularly talking to.”  “I should get those Covid pounds […]

uncertainty

What I Learned From Adversity, That Can Help Right Now

Right now reminds me of my freshman year of college. That fall, my family learned that my dad had reached the five-year cancer-free mark. It was over 30 years ago, and Dad had had throat cancer, so there had been a lot of fear and anxiety for a long time. What reminds me of now […]

Team

Have a Controller, Avoider, or Victim on Your Team?

When you think of the voice of the inner critic, maybe it takes you to the times you’ve been terrified, with shaky legs, before starting a presentation. Or maybe you remember the higher salary you kicked yourself for not negotiating, or the time your pushy colleague asked the boss for your big project right in front of […]

Peace

Peace

On my morning walks in Riverside Park, there is a homeless man who kneels in meditation, his shopping cart next to him full of his possessions. This man is so perfectly still. His energy seems to emanate so that when I walk by, I automatically slow down like I’ve entered some energy vortex. Around the […]

Create A Safe Space

Create a Safe Space (and avoid disaster when your team ramps up post-Covid)

Here’s something ironic.This year the safety of home actually messed up the safe space of the office. What I mean is that we’re all a bit out of shape when it comes to office dynamics. I’m starting to hear anxiety about how things will go when we all go back. SNL even did a funny skit about […]

burnout

Mutiny on the Team (hint: It has to do with burnout)

A couple of weeks ago, I was in my third session with a large corporate team. I asked how things were going and whether anyone could share how they were using the tools I’d been teaching.   A lot of silence, then one guy shifted in his seat. But a big, floppy, slightly angry shift. […]

Self-made

Are You Self-Made?

From Horatio Algers to some of our recent presidents, the idea of starting life in adversity and reaching the heights of success is at the core of American mythology. So what do you do if you grew up in a stable home with parents who had a successful life? I was thinking about it recently […]

What’s Clouding Your Judgment Right Now…and How to Fix It

Last year I worked with a team that was burnt out. Their business was seeing double-digit growth. They were viewed by the larger organization as one of the star accounts, a desirable place for new hires to learn excellence. But where the burnout showed up was in their turnover. They kept losing their best talent. […]

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